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Invest In Yourself: The Benefits Of Therapy

Therapy is too often considered a luxury. It’s too expensive to start, or it’s one of the first things cut when finances get difficult. So why should we start looking at therapy as making the choice to invest in yourself instead? No matter what else happens in life, the one constant is that the longest relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself, so it’s important to make the most of it. Therapy helps you connect (or in many cases, reconnect) with your often lost sense of self and your core being. So is there any other investment more important you could make?

Who Am I?

This question universally shows up in therapy because it is central to our being/core. ‘Who am I’ is the existential question we all ponder. If it’s not clear to us, it becomes easy to make poor choices, repeat unhealthy patterns and feel stuck in life.

If I don’t know who I am, how will I know what I need in life?

Therapy helps you uncover these truths by using reflective inquiries and exercises in a safe space with an objective person. It gives you the time, space and focus to explore your insecurities without judgement, to help you determine the things that are most important to you.

If I don’t know what I need, then life happens TO me, rather than me creating the life I want.

Am I Enough?

‘I am not enough’ can stem from many different sources; from how we were treated by the family we grew up with, our childhood experiences, the traumas we experienced, the types of relationships we’ve had/have, or our perceived notion of (or lack of) success.

This one belief is the most debilitating of all because it creates the internal message that you are not worthy or loveable. Without these core feelings, it’s not surprising we are unhappy or unfulfilled in our lives! Without feeling worthy or loveable, we easily begin to engage in unhealthy behaviours like overeating or substance use to try and numb or distract ourselves from the pain we continue to reinforce every time we doubt that we are enough.

Therapy is a journey of exploration where you can learn to change these feelings with emotional/trauma work, shifting your mindset, and learning to consistently choose healthy behaviours. In doing so, you start to reframe “am I enough?” into “I am enough.”. The best part? Even if you come to therapy for one specific issue, this new framework seeps into every corner of your life by changing the way you choose to relate to, and engage with, the world around you.

Life is hard enough as it is, so why try and figure it out alone?

Most of us were never taught how to develop and sustain a powerful mindset by having awareness of our thought patterns. We are not taught how to accurately identify what we feel, validate the emotion and express it in a healthy manner to understand at its core what it’s telling us we need. It helps to have someone else shine the light to illuminate what we cannot see for ourselves. Therapists point these things out and add the context we need to help us understand that it is not about ‘who we are’ but about ‘what has happened to us’. They help create a roadmap from where you are to where you want to go, and their belief in you can begin to grow into a belief in yourself and your value. You are always worth it; invest in yourself.

I truly believe if you can commit to doing the work in therapy, it may be the hardest thing you ever do, but it will also pay off more than anything else you ever do.

You are worth it. So what are you waiting for?

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Searchlight Counselling provides in-person and virtual therapy for individuals and couples in Burnaby, Vancouver, and across British Columbia. Specializing in BIPOC & 2SLGBTQIA+.